| by Kenneth Chase | 100 comments

Emotional Decluttering Hacks for Minimalism Beginners


Hello friends this is Youheum. Thanks for
joining me today. I’ve been practicing mindfulness,
sustainability, minimalism, and wellness for five years. I was able to overcome my
anxiety attacks, feelings of shame, and negativity through emotional
decluttering. Today I’ll be sharing the step-by-step guide to emotional detox
and letting go, which can help you on your physical decluttering journey. If
you’ve been feeling a bit lost in your practice of minimalism or if you’ve been
looking for the next step, I hope that the exercises that I’ll be sharing will
shed some light in your practice. If you’re looking for tips on physical
decluttering, feel free to check out my video and you can also download the
Minimalist Workbook. In my practice, emotional decluttering is the process of
letting go of toxic influences, negative mindset, and self-destructive thoughts in
order to bring emotional well-being. My focus is never really on denying
negativity or eliminating feelings like anger, sadness, or loneliness but it’s on
embracing and understanding my own feelings with clarity and mindfulness.
Also, be sure to share with me where you are currently struggling with. What have
you been feeling these days that you were not able to express to other people.
I would also love to know if you have any other techniques besides minimalism
that you use for emotional healing and letting go. So the first step I recommend
is to identify your goals, intentions, and needs. I know that external influences,
criticism and judgment can make us confused as to what our true needs and
wants are. We might be thinking that we want more material abundance and
external praise but what we truly want might be self-love, support, and safety. When we have distractions and unwanted stimulation, we can easily
forget what brings us real happiness. For this exercise, I want you to ask
solution-focused questions and you can write this down in your journal or
download my Minimalist Workbook for additional questions and resources. So
the first question is… If I committed to minimalism and emotional decluttering
what would change in my life? How will I be able to tell that I’ve done
enough? What new opportunities can emotional well-being bring in my life? So
instead of saying my life is not the way I want it to be because of this and that
try to align with the statement… I want some major changes in my life for the
better and I can improve this part of myself. The second step is to know what
your capacity and comfort level is and this includes knowing your own limits. I
know that we often try to do everything and be everything which can lead to
burn-out. That’s why it’s important to be mindful of your own feelings and
physical sensations while exploring your thoughts, memories, and negative emotions.
I recommend following this exercise. So for example, this can be your answer to
this question… I often feel angry at other people and I recently felt angry
when someone didn’t agree with me. But when I was talking to my loving friend, I
felt so much better. And in the future, I want to do more sharing and connecting
to overcome my feelings of anger. But I know that sometimes this is not
available and when I can’t talk with my friend, I can at least journal or take a
walk in order to take my mind off of it and in order to feel a bit better.
This approach allows you to find an alternative when immediate remedies are not available. It’s easy to want what we
don’t have because we are often reminded of our own physical lack. That’s why it’s
crucial to focus on what you can do that’s easy, readily available, and abundant in the present moment. So do what you can
without forcing expectations onto yourself or onto others. The third step
is to surrender. I know that it’s easy to say “just let it go” to someone
who’s struggling but it’s difficult to empathize with their suffering and pain.
To me, letting go is understanding the presence of suffering and embracing it
fully. So I think it’s a bit dangerous to assume that we can be without conflict
and negativity in our lives. We can’t force perfection onto ourselves because
we naturally have to deal with negativity in order to grow and move
forward. We don’t have to run away, destroy, or eliminate what we can’t agree
with. We simply have to be aware of the pain in order to dissolve it into light.
In this exercise, I want you to focus deeply on your feelings to promote
self-awareness. So don’t let the small signs of inner conflict slip away.
Try to stay mindful and present when anger or other emotions come up in your
life. This means focusing deeply on that anger and recognizing how you are
breathing, how are you feeling physically, what your body temperature is, and just
the general sensation. If you’re comfortable, I want you to ask yourself why you’re so
angry. It’s best to acknowledge and accept your feelings
without denying it and resisting it. Even if the feeling is negative and unwanted. If you feel overwhelmed or exhausted, simply let yourself cry and express your
struggles with honesty. You don’t have to assume that you have to be a perfect
human being without vulnerabilities. You can be there for yourself and support
yourself through this hardship and struggles. Additionally, I would love for
you to read Debbie Ford’s book The Dark Side of The Light Chasers, to get
started on shadow work. Which is the practice of healing your disowned and
buried emotions. The last step is to find and commit to what nourishes you, what
brings you joy, and happiness. So what are some practices that you can try out
today or whenever you are ready in the future? You can also feel free to follow
the blog link in the descriptions for a checklist of tools that you can use for
emotional decluttering. I also want to add that minimalism may not be the
solution that everyone is seeking. I feel that maximalist can also find emotional
healing and nourishment. So I want us to all take our time, be gentle, and flexible
when finding the right tools for our unique selves. Also, you can find
additional resources in my Minimalist Workbook, exclusive podcast episodes on
Patreon, and my upcoming masterclass course which you can sign up on my
website. I hope that I was useful in some way. Thanks again for being here my
friends and I hope to see you again soon.

100 Comments

Heal Your Living

Aug 8, 2019, 4:03 pm Reply

How are you feeling these days? Any struggles you are dealing with? 

I believe that burying our negative emotion is also a way of coping and healing. We do not have to invite fake positivity or force ourselves to commit to healing when we are suffering deeply. We can invite emotional decluttering into your lives when we are simply ready. So be gentle my friends. ??

Richard Bonilla

Aug 8, 2019, 4:23 pm Reply

Don't really need to be wearing clothes indoors. Allows more freedom of movement.

gfhdhsbdbwuiugdhe

Aug 8, 2019, 4:27 pm Reply

love your and your sister's videos. can you do a video on positive affirmations or perhaps how to meditate?

Jessica Bridges

Aug 8, 2019, 4:29 pm Reply

I definitely needed this.

chimneys thighs

Aug 8, 2019, 4:30 pm Reply

I got a losing-weight ad before this video , is the universe trying to tell me something ? (continues eating chocolates)

Machond

Aug 8, 2019, 4:31 pm Reply

i needed this

Anne-Lou

Aug 8, 2019, 4:35 pm Reply

What if we honestly don't know why we are feeling the way we do? I personally don't have the best interoception and often cannot differentiate between emotional and physical pain or worry and bowel problems or if I am nervous or overstimulated.

Ronni Fich

Aug 8, 2019, 4:38 pm Reply

Petting my kitty while seeing this….ahhhh <3

Christina Elliott

Aug 8, 2019, 4:40 pm Reply

This is the summer of crisis and therefore opportunity for me. I have physically touched and made a decision for about 1/3 of all the items I've accumulated over the last 60 years of my life in hopes of physical decluttering. One of my challenges is the emotional toll that this process is taking. Considering the emotional and memory attachments I have to physical objects, how I hold tightly to how others think of me based on my the contents of my home and workplace, and how I focus first on my shortcomings and am all-around critical of myself, this summer has been just plain painful. Viewing your video is timely. A couple of people, my mother and an ex-boyfriend of mine, will be visiting me in the coming week, I'm considering not pushing myself to appear happy and successful when I don't feel that way. I wonder what their reaction will be? How will I feel when I'm with them? How will I feel about myself? I feel so ready for a change in so many parts of my life, but those changes, I realize, must come from within me and be about me and for my wellbeing.

Erika Kelly

Aug 8, 2019, 4:43 pm Reply

I’ve been feeling anxious and lost lately and stuff keeps piling up, just about to start a serious deep clean, thank you for the tips!

david

Aug 8, 2019, 4:47 pm Reply

Will you ever do a video about your cat?

Acacia Sharay

Aug 8, 2019, 4:48 pm Reply

I would just like to thank you for making these beautiful videos! You are constantly inspiring me and giving knew ideas. Much love <333

First Name Last Name

Aug 8, 2019, 4:52 pm Reply

Sis, I honestly needed this at this exact moment. I'm in such a fit of an emotional rat-king at this time I honestly wish Death of relief of this suffering. Honestly, and I mean literally honestly…my 3 pet mice is All that's keeping me tethered to this earthly existence. I'm just in an existential crises. It's worn me to the bone.

Emma Zörner

Aug 8, 2019, 5:05 pm Reply

I'm struggling with an eating disorder andI'm trying to except myself, my body, my emotions and my surroundings like people or things that happened.
I want to focus on me and my recovery.

Thank you very much Youheum!
You are helping me a lot. ?

Robin Lillian

Aug 8, 2019, 5:08 pm Reply

I'm sick of these "holier than thou" videos. What about your arrogance and feelings of superiority? How about trying to get rid of some those while you meditate? As if sitting and meditating in an empty apartment solves all problems or makes you better than the rest of us. If you like it that way, it's your business, but you have no right to claim superiority because of it. I wish I could "declutter" my Youtube account by blocking YOU.

JAsparklefret7

Aug 8, 2019, 5:15 pm Reply

Thank you so much for sharing your technique!!! I didn't even know I needed this. By the way, can you share on how you make and tie your headband? I find it really pretty and simple.

D

Aug 8, 2019, 5:17 pm Reply

You are so inspiring! I adore watching your videos and hearing your voice! ❤

Deborah Meyers

Aug 8, 2019, 5:41 pm Reply

Thank you so much for your amazing thoughts and supportive nature reaching out in a profound way ????

Trizelle Bodenstein

Aug 8, 2019, 6:07 pm Reply

Thank you for a beautiful video, I’ve been going through some emotional things and this has given me some much needed clarity, for which I’m grateful. Love from South Africa!

Rich Cooper 武士道

Aug 8, 2019, 6:14 pm Reply

An aging master grew tired of his apprentice’s complaints. One morning, he sent him to get some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master told him to mix a handful of salt in a glass of water and drink it.

How does it taste?………asked the master.

Bitter, said the apprentice.

The master then asked the young man to take a handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said…………Now drink from the lake.

As the water dripped down the young man’s chin, the master asked, How does it taste?

Fresh, remarked the apprentice.

Do you taste the salt? ………asked the master.

No, said the young man. At this the master sat beside him and explained.

The pain of life is pure salt…………no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains exactly the same. However, the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put it in. When you are in pain, enlarge your sense of things.

Stop being the glass………Become the lake.

Thank you Youheum ? ?

Elce

Aug 8, 2019, 6:20 pm Reply

I'm in the process of getting rid of almost everything I own and I am so thankful for your channel, it has inspired me and reminded me why I no longer want so many items. Now that I have less stuff in my life its easier to focus on decluttering my mind <3

Moral Mindset

Aug 8, 2019, 6:22 pm Reply

I literally wait for you to upload another video and get excited and we have very similar lifestyles and I’m glad I found a channel I can relate to on a spiritual level. Thank you very much for being you.??

Late to the Game

Aug 8, 2019, 6:52 pm Reply

I like having threesomes. That makes me feel positive and relaxed.

CFont493

Aug 8, 2019, 7:07 pm Reply

Since following your videos, I'm definitely welcoming & open to the idea of getting rid of items I own. Before I used to throw any reason out there to keep something!

Marty Novotná

Aug 8, 2019, 7:20 pm Reply

I am just dealing with a painful breakup, so this video is a gift from heaven for me 🙂 Thank you for this! 🙂

XxEmilyxX

Aug 8, 2019, 7:40 pm Reply

I have been struggling with anxious thoughts regarding my living situation. I am a U.S. citizen currently living in the Netherlands with a student visa. However, I am in the process of applying for another (year-long) visa. I am hoping all goes well and I can apply for this new visa with no issues. After this extra year, I would like to marry my boyfriend (EU citizen), who recently proposed to me. 🙂

BeeDee Lite

Aug 8, 2019, 7:45 pm Reply

Another beautiful video. Thanks again Youheum. This will be very helpful. xo

Ewa Kotarska

Aug 8, 2019, 8:01 pm Reply

I'd love a specific step by step video on how you got where you are from where you have been. You said it was a long journey and it would be so helpful to know about the process. Such a shame you haven't film it. ??

Chris Desatoff

Aug 8, 2019, 8:08 pm Reply

FYI guys…

To get real benefits from this video, you might want to take some time when you can to watch it more than once and actually think about these questions and perhaps write down in a journal your answers to the exercises.

If you just watch and scroll and click to the next video, you're missing 99% of the value of this. Unfortunately, social media has trained us to consume content in that way, and as a result we often don't experience any real change from "personal development" type content like this because we approach it in such a shallow, hit-and-run manner.

I'd recommend pausing at each question and journaling about it before moving on to the next question. You won't be able to do this in just 5 minutes, so pour a nice cup of whatever and settle in for a bit.

ENJOY! =)

Chris Desatoff

Aug 8, 2019, 8:17 pm Reply

"Burying our negative emotions is also a way of coping and healing."

I feel that way too, about negative emotions. Emotions aren't necessarily good or bad – we just frame them that way. But all emotions can be helpful.

Our negative feelings give us awareness about situations in our lives that are not serving us. They make us aware of our vibrational state. They are like defense mechanisms or warning lights on our car dashboard that alerts us to problem areas in our lives.

00Mercredi00

Aug 8, 2019, 8:19 pm Reply

I'm feeling overwhelmed and small. This is so hard. I cry a lot.
This video is precious. I will watch it again and take notes.
Thank you. You really help people. ❤️ I wish you all the best.

Pink Skies

Aug 8, 2019, 8:22 pm Reply

So helpful. THank you. ?

TfDream

Aug 8, 2019, 8:52 pm Reply

I feel like I’m losing myself every day a bit more. I don’t find peace. I tried so hard. I changed my whole life just to see that it’s not the answer. I am still trying but I don’t find the strength to continue. There are days where I feel like I can do it this time. And the next day I can’t even get out of bed. I focused so hard on other people’s live that I forgot my own. I know I should find my own way but I don’t know which direction.

hodsh1

Aug 8, 2019, 8:55 pm Reply

i feel guilty about not having time to look for a full-time job. i've been wondering if i could be more efficient with my time, or if it's that i can't stretch any more out of myself without giving something up.

palestblue

Aug 8, 2019, 9:09 pm Reply

Such a wonderful video, thank you! <3 I work as a therapist and find that mindfulness and mental decluttering are so helpful on a path to a more fulfilled life. I am dealing with always feeling inadequate and aiming for some kind of perfection. I am trying to learn to be kinder to myself and to be more content with who I am and what my limits are. <3

AlmaxSagojyo

Aug 8, 2019, 10:02 pm Reply

This is my first time commenting on your video.
This video is the EXACT thing I needed right now. Upon your recommendation, I read "The Dark Side of the Light Chasers," and I'm working on letting go, but it's really hard. So I've been looking for other ways to do so. I'm taking this video as a sign that my work is being recognized by Divine and we're all here to help each other out. Thank you so much for uploading this video!!

Mr. Biggums Worth

Aug 8, 2019, 10:06 pm Reply

I experience burn out too often, so this is what I am focused on working on. Thank you for bringing this issue I have to the forefront.

Sofia Mascarenhas

Aug 8, 2019, 10:10 pm Reply

I love your voice

Blue Bird

Aug 8, 2019, 10:16 pm Reply

I want to sage my house to get rid of bad energy….do you know what stores sell sage?? Help!

Kasia

Aug 8, 2019, 10:38 pm Reply

Can you do a video about how you let go of your physical belongings? Did you sell/gift/donate everything?
I'm in the process of letting go of most of my belongings, and it's taking much longer than expected to find a new home for all of it – and I'm really starting to feel like my belongings are holding me back from moving on to the next chapter.

Iris Gardinier

Aug 8, 2019, 10:39 pm Reply

Do you get cold when you meditate? Or are the blankets you always seem to use just for comfort? I always love blankets, even when its hot out. But i always meditate lying down… not sure why it never occured to me to do what you do! Sorry this is off topic ???

A. R. Rogers

Aug 8, 2019, 10:51 pm Reply

I’m struggling with food and obsessive thinking. I’m struggling with a creative block and chronic fatigue. I’m struggling with the desire to care for myself and my body and struggling against feelings of defeat.

Agata

Aug 8, 2019, 10:56 pm Reply

I’ve been feeling lost. No idea what I should do with my future. I’m scared, because of adulthood. Trying to figure out what I need to do, but the problem is- i dont know what I want to do…

PH SweetLover

Aug 8, 2019, 10:59 pm Reply

i love your videos. i feel like I'm meditating ?

Srikania Audrey Schramm

Aug 8, 2019, 12:42 am Reply

I have been practising that third exercise for a month. At one time I had a sudden emotional shift at work and felt blue out of nowhere as if I was about to cry. I tried to remain calm and observe my breathing, noticing the sensations on my chest and throat (quite apparent when you are feeling sad), I also observed the tension on my neck and shoulder and thought "this is my body responding to certain emotional state". Eventually I had to go to the bathroom to shed some tears, but the most powerful impact of that exercise truly lies in the aftermath.
On my return to the desk, I didn't feel frustrated from having such condition, I felt more compassionate towards myself and glad because I got another step closer in knowing myself.
I hope by sharing this experience, more people will be encouraged to face their dark times.
Have a great day ?

KE KE

Aug 8, 2019, 12:50 am Reply

I love your videos and your positive energy. I wish the whole world was like you.

Al

Aug 8, 2019, 12:57 am Reply

I want to melt next to you.

zachparade

Aug 8, 2019, 1:08 am Reply

Thanks ? for your video. It was what I needed to hear today.

I have been struggling with a lack of self-worth, which leaves me feeling empty and like I have nothing to offer the world. I realized that the advanced degree I chased was an attempt to feel worthy; however, it did nothing to get at the root of my challenge. In fact, now I don’t value what I got a degree in either—like if I got a degree in it, it can’t be that important to the world.

Two things that helped me feel temporarily better are 1) wrote a poem 2) watched your video ?

Sathish

Aug 8, 2019, 1:16 am Reply

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MastandStars

Aug 8, 2019, 1:17 am Reply

Really Really good video today!!!

I Am Unknown4Now ASMR

Aug 8, 2019, 1:59 am Reply

I’ve been feeling quite overwhelmed lately therefore I’ve been doing a lot of breathing exercises and aromatherapy.

Sushma Shah

Aug 8, 2019, 2:10 am Reply

Beautiful ?????

C Mac

Aug 8, 2019, 2:15 am Reply

You are #goals ?

Cathy Lynn Pietranton

Aug 8, 2019, 2:27 am Reply

Beautiful video. Thank you for the great exercises to practice and think about.

Mary Smith

Aug 8, 2019, 2:47 am Reply

Hi:)

I’ve been dealing with a strong feeling of rejection and abandonment. I’d like to find purpose and value, even through the loneliness. Thank you for your video —

ABC 123

Aug 8, 2019, 2:51 am Reply

You give me hope.

s.lee

Aug 8, 2019, 3:29 am Reply

Your voice is so calming. You should make CDs for relaxing and meditation. Thank you for your video and yes you were very helpful as you normally are.

Marley

Aug 8, 2019, 3:44 am Reply

I am struggling with physical well being and mental well being. Dealing with feeling like a failure and like I am not good enough or capable to grow or handle new responsibilities. I constantly tell myself I could never be good enough to get a normal part time or full time job. That I cannot succeed. Part of it is due to realistic circumstances. A lot is just excess grief I am putting myself through. I feel like If I can declutter my life and only have things I truly use. I can make a better effort in improving myself and doing things for myself to improve my spirits. I would change my habits of staying indoors and make plans with old friends. Perhaps to just go down to the water or into the woods. Overall I think I would be much happier if I could start to work on these things.

michele sunshine

Aug 8, 2019, 4:30 am Reply

Can you do a video about your tattoos??

Luisa Lima

Aug 8, 2019, 5:09 am Reply

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Plantboundwithin

Aug 8, 2019, 6:11 am Reply

Not suppressing how I feel and bringing attention to what I am feeling through acceptance, is
something I’ve been trying to incorporate more this year. Personally I ‘ve
noticed it can be uncomfortable to address them and looking for external
validation or denying them can be an easy pattern to fall into with all the
distractions around us. But when we slow down and recognize our feelings, we can grow a
deeper understanding of ourselves. This was a beautiful video. Thank you. ?

Cass –

Aug 8, 2019, 6:18 am Reply

I NEED MONEY.

rei miyasaka

Aug 8, 2019, 6:42 am Reply

I've been writing in a journal any time I'm going through stuff since I was 14. Probably at least a few thousands pages by now.

It rarely helps me actually fix anything, and the cathartic value of it has worn off, but I can confidently say that it's helped me understand myself and not hate myself or regret my failures.

rakkrisr123

Aug 8, 2019, 9:20 am Reply

Nofap helped me …in the journey ??

Ka Birz

Aug 8, 2019, 10:10 am Reply

Thank you ?

Sneha Sen

Aug 8, 2019, 11:05 am Reply

Thank u so much for those exercises… It really helps me to sorted out everything… Could you share with us your previous life story? It will really help us to understand the path of your journey… Love from India ♥️

Liezl Bezt

Aug 8, 2019, 11:07 am Reply

Love these videos! Definitely an inspiration when it comes to intentional living and mindfulness. Would you consider doing a video of the scrubba/laundry routine?

sara testi

Aug 8, 2019, 12:33 pm Reply

hello 🙂 can you talk about your spirituality? do you practice zen? in your day what is your target?

Celine E.

Aug 8, 2019, 2:08 pm Reply

Yay ! I love this kind of topics ! Thanks for the treat !!! ♥️?☀️

Lim Yu shu

Aug 8, 2019, 2:17 pm Reply

Recently, as a leader, i have been facing so much problems that it is overwhelming for me to control a large crowd. I often give out poor instructions, causing frustration and irritation in my group members. I feel frustrated as well, and i just could not express myself and ask for help… I'm afraid of admitting to my own mistakes, and understanding that people are disappointed in me

Veganimal

Aug 8, 2019, 4:11 pm Reply

So glad you're not a typical New Ager who promotes relentless positivity, which in my opinion is really harmful and promotes self-loathing and guilt. Something I read recently that I found very helpful is from Jill Bolte Taylor's My Stroke of Insight. She says that the chemical/physiological effect of strong emotions only last 90 seconds. They usually last longer because our left brain tries to make sense of the feelings with thoughts. If you just feel the feeling fully, they dissipate naturally. There is no need to force yourself to let go. These waves may come and go many times if you're dealing with something hard, like grief. But it's totally fine and natural. People who tell you to let it go are doing it because they're uncomfortable with your strong feelings and their own; it's not for your benefit.

M P

Aug 8, 2019, 4:24 pm Reply

I found your channel few weeks ago and I thank you for sharing your experience. I wish more people would be interested in these kind of channel.
Have a nice day

Richard Bonilla

Aug 8, 2019, 5:05 pm Reply

I'm glad you experienced nude Yoga. Do you still practice?

Perfectly Imperfect

Aug 8, 2019, 7:38 pm Reply

I love your channel, I've been interested in the benefits of this lifestyle. Especially for those of us who suffer from deep emotional and mental clutter.

eloise

Aug 8, 2019, 8:04 pm Reply

hi, i love your videos thank you for what you share with us. I have a lots of struggle with anxiety and panic attacks do you have some tips/advice or can you share how you get trough this please ( if you feel like it of course). Keep doing like this, take care and wish you the best for you and your sister !

Marija

Aug 8, 2019, 8:17 pm Reply

I'd be curious what is your take on receiving material gifts from others as an extreme minimalist. I feel very pressured, socially and emotionally, to receive things that I will only want to get rid of later and I still have a long way to go to getting my possesions down to the essentials.

Fairyland Cottage

Aug 8, 2019, 8:22 pm Reply

Beautiful video by a beautiful human… I like the use Choice Theory to help with healing and letting go and keeping myself mentally strong. It's practical and powerful. It's by William Glasser for anyone interested.

Pamela Dragon

Aug 8, 2019, 9:46 pm Reply

A book that I'm grateful for is Acupressure for Emotional Healing by Beth Ann Henning . Definitely recommend checking it out. ?

Bodkin 89

Aug 8, 2019, 12:59 pm Reply

Lately your videos have been popping up right when i need them! Thank you for uploading, i needed to see this today… ?

your tranquil friend

Aug 8, 2019, 2:05 pm Reply

Hello friend,

I reeally hope you see this comment, I was thinking about you yesterday, and now I saw this video and, what a coincidence, because it's what I wanted to talk about with you. I think you can help me with something.

I appreciate this topic so much. Emotional, mental minimalism and such, are even more important than decluttering objects, since things come and go as we use them, but our feeling and thoughts are with us all the time. Our lives can change so much by being positive or negative. So this is so important.

I've been wanting to ask you something. Lately, I've been dealing with bad feelings about myself. I even hid the mirror today, and I'm going to try to avoid it for a while, so I can worry less about my appearance. It's hard for me to understand I don't have to be the prettiest. When I was a child, I didn't care about being pretty, even when people told me I was ugly, I felt sorry they cared about such things. I really didn't. But now, I do, and when I see a beautiful woman with dark skin, I want to be like that, when I see a very white person with red hair, I dream about being born like this, when I see someone with a smaller nose, I wish I had one, and so on. I feel so bad, because I didn't even want to focus on such a silly thing to start with. I don't know what is happening to me. I think positively of everyone, except me. I am starting to hate myself, slowly. I feel like… I'm not holding hands with my inner child. It's as if I'm starting to look the other way. And this is affecting my life so much, because I'm not "carrying" myself very well, not giving myself enough value, I guess, I'm starting to beg for attention of others. Talking too much. I feel bad, like I'm becoming someone else. (I hope I expressed myself well enough, engligh is my 2nd language).

I just wanted to ask you: Do you ever or how do you deal with these feelings of inferiority and insatisfaction? How do you start improving your personality and decluttering the mind and feelings? Where to start? How do you know who you really are?

Penny B

Aug 8, 2019, 4:42 pm Reply

Really enjoy your advice and caring presentation. Thank you.

designeur design

Aug 8, 2019, 6:05 pm Reply

❤❤❤❤❤

jenny Tassin

Aug 8, 2019, 9:39 pm Reply

you remind me of the joyfull and fresh nones i met at plum village in south-west France. <3

Annemarie Zweistra

Aug 8, 2019, 8:24 am Reply

Feeling a lot of anger towards what is happening in the world around me. People killing people.. shootings.. animals.. hate. It makes me sad and powerless. Luckily I have learnt how to connect with myself and my higher self trough meditation. It feels so safe and comfy. But how to deal with real life sometimes becomes so much harder. How do you deal?

Ceren C.

Aug 8, 2019, 12:47 pm Reply

Wow what amazing and helpful video ?? and your voice is so relaxing 🙂

Melrose

Aug 8, 2019, 2:18 pm Reply

Another wonderful video with so many helpful practices. The one practice that has helped me the very most through the years is the teaching from TNH to hold your emotion (anger, fear, frustration, ect.) like a baby, and take good care of it. As you say here, to lovingly acknowledge our emotions is sometimes all we need for healing to start. The main emotion I struggle with is dealing with my children's pain & worrying about how they will be when I am gone. They are 25,27 & 29 and I am 60. My own mother died when I was 18, so I know how hard it is to live your whole adult life without a mother. The thought of not being here to comfort them, and the fear of the unknown things that might happen is my only huge worry in life. I would like to heal that one day.

Dark_Architect1

Aug 8, 2019, 4:51 pm Reply

Ive gone through a divorce and job loss in the past 2 months. My goal in life has always been to find peace and happiness.. bills/money stresses me out so much that i feel like im having a heartattack

Marley Macdonald

Aug 8, 2019, 6:30 pm Reply

I have recently went through a break up and it has been hard for me but I am letting my self fully cry and go through the pain to let go fully and start a new chapter in my life ?

Inventor

Aug 8, 2019, 11:59 pm Reply

i just watched my friend's truck converted into a (supposed to be) camping van and is awful, no space at all. claustrophobic. he literally installed thick furnitures and for real sink. it's so full of shit, i couldn't tell him directly it's a complete disaster. 500 kg of clutter. and he is proud. what a nightmare of tiny house.

TheSouthLondonRealist

Aug 8, 2019, 12:32 am Reply

Would be lovely to hear your podcast

Monika B

Aug 8, 2019, 11:24 am Reply

I relax with you. It's been a very stressful time for our family, and your calm voice helps. Thank you for your amazing content! You inspire and motivate us. Sending best wishes. M.

Rajani Gurucharan

Aug 8, 2019, 12:47 pm Reply

Love your videos..really calm and soothing.

jenn ifer

Aug 8, 2019, 3:21 pm Reply

Since I found your channel I’ve been slowly getting rid of things that I don’t need. I’ve been feeling down and cluttered constantly before I found you. Now currently I’m feeling less cluttered and better about myself. Thank you.

Charu Satija

Aug 8, 2019, 3:26 pm Reply

Came across your channel last week and I have been watching your videos endlessly. There's something so serene about the way you live. I'm myself an aspiring minimalist, and really happy to find your videos on my journey. 🙂

Peg Whiting

Aug 8, 2019, 12:50 am Reply

Exactly what I needed to hear, made me cry. Heal the pain. Thank you

Isabel

Aug 8, 2019, 1:33 pm Reply

Beautiful and inspiring video! Thank you so much for sharing.

Read to us, Auntie Charlene

Aug 8, 2019, 3:34 pm Reply

I do have emotional baggage. I also have fallen into the role of caregiver/support emotionally for close family members. It's difficult because it makes me feel that I'm the supporting actor and not the starring role in my own life. I am giving emotionally to others but at times it's exhausting. Especially when family members start sounding like broken records, going over and over the same stories of past hurts.

マーリン

Aug 8, 2019, 8:12 pm Reply

I think the way you do things is s part of your deep psychological illness. You also look pretty unhealthy and emotionless.

Caroline Nors – Lifestyle Design

Aug 8, 2019, 9:18 pm Reply

So beautiful! ?

callalilly63

Aug 8, 2019, 11:53 am Reply

I truly enjoy watching you and even just listening. I started listening to you in the car today instead of music to calm down. I have always lived a minimalist life, however, not necessarily by choice; but, truly considering the situations I found myself in, I find that it is truly what makes me happy. After a few years of dealing with the last wave of chaos in my life, I have made a decision to become a minimalist consciously and not by outside forces. I just wish you had more videos for me to watch and hear, but I will wait patiently. The same patience which I am finding is coming rather easily in my transition. I find this very surprising, but enjoying it as I watch the beginning and how slowly it all unfolds. Thank you for your videos and sharing with us.

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