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Bachelor Apartments & Dodo Birds


– Hey, everyone. My name is Hallease Beast. I’m a digital storyteller
and video producer. – And I’m Mr. Hallease. I’m a registered nurse and an
avid fan of Cigar Aficionado. I’m not. I don’t know what that is. – We can’t be endorsing smoking. You’re a nurse. – Yeah, you go to the ER, and they’re the worst
consumers of every vice. – That’s true, yeah. Anyway, this is (Hallease
laughs) the BeastCast. – This is BeastCast. – Your favorite aunt and uncle
talking about married life and things like, such as.
– Such as. And now we’re finishing
each other’s sentence. – I refuse. – Okay. Roll the music. (electronic music) – So on this week’s episode,
we’re discussing something that’s been going on, I
guess, virally on Twitter. – It’s–
– Has it been Twitter? – Topical.
– Topical. – On the social medias. – On the social medias, women are roasting men on their apartments and how terrible they look. – [Chris] On the state of
the bachelor apartment. – The bachelor apartment. And so we figured, wow, let’s be topical, and talk about that a little bit because Mr. Hallease fits into that. – I mean, I was guilty
of it (Hallease laughs) for a period of time, alright. Okay, I’m a reformed bachelor pad person. – Yeah. (Hallease laughs) – I’ve kicked it for
about six, seven year now. Ooh man, it’s a sensitive subject. The whole thing is supposed to bring shame on to the lives that men have,
sort of like, post-college, if they went to college. And that’s actually a good
place to start because I feel like the reason why
men feel like it’s okay is because it’s an extension
of the college dorm life. So we live essentially in, aw man, I’m tryin’ not to
be super idiotic about this but you live very basically,
very simply in a dorm. – Yeah. – Sort of like a, it’s
almost like a zoo like area, you know, and it’s like, oh, you know, – Like here’s your little
caged in portion of space. – This is where my clothes are, that’s where I eat sometimes, and that’s where I use the bathroom. (Hallease laughs) – I get both sides of the argument here. I definitely understand
the bachelor argument because to me it’s like
how you gonna shade men for living very simply,
right, when, you know, so what’s the difference
in the minimalist movement, or whatever, you got people
that are talking about, oh, I live a monochromatic
life and here’s my bed, and here’s my this, and here’s my that. And it is very, like, sterile, right. So what’s the difference between that and a bachelor pad of
a guy essentially doing the same thing just, you
know, it’s not everything, everything wasn’t bought
at Westelm, you know. So, like, what’s the difference
(laughs), where’s the line. – In that minimalist
lifestyle, you get people trying make as little noise as possible. – Oh yeah, the extreme part of it. Yeah, like, living as
quietly as they possibly can. Which is interesting, I’d
be interested to just, like, see what that is, you know. – I mean, I see nothing wrong
with living in that way. It’s not–
– It ain’t cute. – It’s not cute. You’re not gonna win people
over that you bring over, you know, you’re not gonna be, so– – Well are you not, I
mean, you won me over. – Yeah, but we didn’t
spend a lot of time there. Did we not? – We spent a lot of time in your apartment – Whoa. (Hallease laughs) – If I can make the counter argument, it’s just that I think you can do it, just at least give yourself, like, some self dignity with it. So for you, for example. He had, this was the
what, when did we meet? The late 2010’s? – The late 20 ought’s? – One 20 ought’s.
– No, 2010’s. – 2010’s, I don’t know, anyway. – Early 2010’s.
– Early 2010’s. And you had an old–
– We met in 2010. – Oh right. You had an old tube TV as your TV. – I did, I sure did. – Which is fine, but you had it– – Got that used. – Yeah, but you had it sitting on what? – I wanna let you say that
because I still, to this day, thought it was, like, a dresser. – Yeah (Hallease laughs).
– I don’t remember. – He had it sitting on,
like, a piece of furniture that’s obviously a night stand, like, it is meant to be by your bedside. – Here’s the problem (Hallease laughs). Y’all are living by, like,
these defined definitions of what things are, you know. Why are you pigeon holing
stuff? (Hallease laughs) One man’s, like, bedside table
is just a table, you know. If it’s at the bedside, it’s
a bedside table, alright. Everybody just has to define things and if someone doesn’t live up to that (Hallease laughs)
definition, then they’re a freak. – Give yourself some self-love, and like, – Keep paintin’ the picture.
– And like have a table. like, an actual TV stand for your TV. – Sure
– You know – It’s like 200 bucks, but okay. – Yeah, and then it was also just like, the artwork you did have made no sense. It was just like– – Those were remnants of the dorm. – Yeah, monkey college
thing, I don’t know. – That was popular in the mid-2000’s. – Was it? – Stupid monkey things. – Okay. So, that stuff was like
haphazardly hung, you know, And then, you did have a
chess set though, randomly. – I did. – Yeah, on a, like, glass table. I remember that. Your couch was rough,
but it was very soft. I actually miss that couch a little bit cause it was, like, super soft. – That was a used couch. – Really? – Mhm. – It was like extra, it was like, not the nasty kind of old couch soft, it was just like this
couch has been worn in and the fluff’s in the right places now. You know what I mean? – I think that was like a $200 couch. – Oh, okay. – Max.
– I miss that couch. – Max. – I miss that couch, it was a good couch. Remember the extra fluff,
you had all that extra fluff? You remember that? – Oh, yeah. – We like played around
in the fluff for awhile but when we were getting rid of the couch. – I had fluff to add to the couch. – Yeah.
– Wow. – You kept extra fluff for the couch. And then finally I remember
in the bathroom you, thankfully, you did actually
use your towel racks. I know dudes that don’t
use their towel rack. Like, just hang your towel
on the rack, you know. – Okay. – And then, – Sounds like a list of all my offenses, and a criminal record. And it’s like and (Hallease laughs) continue, I killed those people. What do you want? – And then, finally, you
did up up having, randomly, like, wood accenty decor in your bathroom. It was like a wooden–
– Oh right. – Vase, like thatch vase thing, and then– – There was like a square. – A wood square. – Held aloft on two prongs. – Yeah.
– On, like, this black base. – It was, like, something
you’d find at, like, TJ Max, like accent piece,
– Oh no. That was,
– Or Ross. – I think that was Big Lots, in Laredo. – Okay. – You know that kinda decor. – Shout out to Big Lots in Laredo. – But we ended up keeping those. Those ended up being in our bathroom. Am I recording? I am.
– Yeah, you’re recording. So let’s talk about my
state post-college, right. Graduated ’09. One year removed, past
the great recession. – Yeah. – Still in the great recession. – Yeah. – Wanted to go to med school. Didn’t know if I was still
gonna go to med school. Maybe I wanted to go to nursing school. I after college moved back
with my parents in Laredo for, like, six months. Worked that whole time. Earned enough money thinking that I was gonna move to San Antonio and start school at the
local university here. Again, to try to get to med school. So doing all that, living on
an extremely tight budget, had a job at a call center. Like, just trying to get anything to get out of Laredo
and in to San Antonio. Parents contributed a little bit. Bare, bare necessities,
like, (Hallease laughs) – Yeah. – Like a pan set, some utensils, like, cooking utensils and
eating utensils, some plates. And then it’s, like, okay, so what do you need to furnish your place. It’s, like, I need a couch to sit on, max. Mind you, oh man we were
living in disheveled state. Notre Dame we had some busted futon that we kept, like, retying on to it cause it would keep sliding down. It was rough over there, you know. The winters were harsh. It just did things to your
brain (Hallease laughs). So after living on that, it’s like, oh, any couch is gonna be great. Went to some, like, used furniture store. Bought some used couch and it’s like cool, what do they got as far as TVs. That looks great, super
cheap, maybe 50 bucks. Stand, that’s tall enough,
perfect. (Hallease laughs) Like, 50, 25 bucks. And I was like, I’m not gonna entertain that many people here.
– Yeah. – Like, I’m just trying
to get stuff through. – Yeah. – So, everything was minimalist because I didn’t want to spend
money, I didn’t have money. And I was just trying to escape Laredo. – Yeah. – So, aside from that,
decor, historically, has never been at the
forefront of my mind. – But see though, that’s the
interesting thing about it. It’s not at the forefront of his mind, but he can do it, like. He has an eye, you know. Especially, well at least,
when it comes to, like, knowing what I’ll like. You have an eye for it. – Yeah but that’s just,
like, the thing I have, so I know, like, clothing. I know what clothing you would find cute or that you would like. I know patterns that you like, I know things that, yeah,
that would catch your eye. Burpy Chris comes out
again (Hallease laughs). But I don’t think about stuff that I like. – Yeah. – And I have to actually
consciously think about it. – I know. – It’s like, oh okay, what would she want. Oh, probably this or that for
a rug or whatever, and yeah. – But that’s the thing. So for me, my big thing was, after we finally did get married and move in together and all of that, I didn’t want the space we shared, for it to be very obvious
when people come over, like, well yeah, I see
Hallease lives here, but does Chris live here? I don’t know, you know. I kept trying to push you. What kind of colors do you like. Because where you live
should be, I don’t know. Design matters, you know. – It doesn’t really
matter that much to me. I know you were concerned about, like, having too feminine either a pattern or colors or whatever for sheets. And it’s like, you know what, I don’t care because no one’s really
gonna see the sheets. I guess if it’s, like, a
little too extreme or busy then I was like, uh I’m
not really feelin’ that, but for the most part I don’t care. And then as far as the
environment, you know, like, Hallease lives here, but
does Chris live here. Okay, so let’s talk about dodos, right. – Dodos? – So, dodos have been extinct for awhile. – Oh.
– The bird. – We bringin’ in more
birds, okay. (laughing) – Just talk about animals, or
like a gray wolf or whatever. – The cuckoo birds and now
we’re on dodos, alright. – Aw, man.
– We’re gonna work this into the title of this episode somehow. – Dodo birds and– – Minimalism and dodo birds.
– And dumb apartments. – Yeah. (Hallease laughs) – It’s just like an animal. It’s, like, does an animal
live here, I don’t know. It’s all, like, wooded,
grassy area and stuff. – Ah. – If you see a dodo in
the area then it’s, like, oh, the dodo lives here,
obviously. (Hallease laughs) And so, like, if it’s an environment, and it’s, like, well does Chris live here because I don’t see his
personality shine through in that, like, postmodern (Hallease laughs) painting on the wall, whatever. And it’s, like, oh, there’s Chris, shirtless and scratching
his belly (Hallease laughs). Clearly, he is here. He is a creature of this
element, so he lives here. – Fair enough. So you’re right, but who was it, I remember we were
listening to NPR the other, nah it was a couple months back, and it was the owner of Whole Foods, and someone had commented on how much he specifically paid attention to the design of the store,
and how the lighting is, and how you feel when you
flow through the store, and all of that kind of stuff. Cause, like, design matters. I don’t wanna reduce
it down to prettiness, but symmetry and color,
all of those things can help evoke a mood in your life, right. And so you want the space you live in to, yeah, feel comfortable, to
give you a feeling of safety, of comfort, and all of those things, and design plays a part in that, you know. Even in the apartment
we’re about to move into. I remember when you pulled it up online, you immediately were drawn
to the industrial look of it. And so it’s like okay, that’s
an interesting thing to, like, keep in mind about design
for you specifically. Like, is that just based on
the time period that we’re in because industrial’s kinda coming back, and all that kinda stuff, or is there something about
the textures of the concrete, and the wood, and the brass and, you know, all of that kind of stuff that brings out a feeling of, I don’t know,
workmanship or craftsmanship, or just, you know, doing
things with your hands. Rough and tumble. Like, there’s different
elements to all of this. – Low-key, it feels like we’re
living in a prison in there. – In this room? – No, in the apartment that
we got. (Hallease laughs) It’s just like it’s concrete everything, and it’s like, dang, it feels
like maybe we’re in jail. – Why are you saying that now? – Oh no, cause we’re gonna, like, we’re gonna add color and stuff to it. – Yeah, the stuff were gonna
add to it will make it work. – If I just, like, straight
lived there as a bachelor. – Oh, you would make it
look terrible in there. – I would probably–
– It would feel like a prison For sure.
– Yeah. – You gonna beeps, or
what are you gonna do? – Uh, the caffeine’s wearing off. Beep-bedeep-beep-beep-bedeep-beep.
(laughs) – Wow, that was so fast, okay. Hey everyone, thanks so much listening slash watching this
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to this very much, but – It’s okay, I think that’s everything. Alright, back to the podcast. – Bye. – Well, so then you acknowledge that there is some value to decorating. – So, I’m not saying
that there’s no value, I’m just saying that men
living in that way, like, I don’t really see a lot wrong with it. – Because they’re in
transit, like, are they. – Right, because, I mean if
you think about, so again, thinking about just at the
bare essentials, it’s, like, I’m moving out on my own, I
just need enough to get by. I also don’t know if I’m
gonna stay at this location, this apartment that I’m at for long, and so if a needa move, I
needa move all this stuff. – Yeah. – I’m gonna take it all down. – Yeah. – And then move it. – Yeah. – And it’s, like, that’s
too much stuff, man. Like, I don’t care about it enough. – That’s true. I mean, moving is costly. And that was something that I noticed with us over the years as
we went from, you know, a one bedroom to then two
to finally hitting, like, the three bedroom house we were in. Think about everything it
took to move, oh my gosh. – Yeah. – I mean, even in a three bedroom house, we didn’t have that much stuff, really, but it was still just, ugh. – Well so, let’s talk about
– So much stuff. – So is living in that way, like, I can rationalize living
in that state, right. But is living in that way
just, like, a way for men, like young men, to sort
of live in that purgatory between the real world
and, like, adolescence. – Oh. – It’s an extension of their old rooms, and so they’re, like, trapped. Because typically you see those situations and they either have just a computer where they typically game and so a lot of this is
just, like, gaming as well. It’s like, well you know, I
come home and I play video games and watch TV and go to bed, and that’s it. And, I mean, there’s like a gaming culture that some people would say, like you know, there’s something wrong with that, but, you know, some people
would make that argument that, well you know, you’re still stuck in an adolescent state
until you meet a woman, or you get engaged in a relationship, and then you start thinking
more like an adult. – Oh.
– That’s interesting. – Err.
– What do you think? – I mean, maybe. I’m coming at it more from, like, why y’all try’na knock folks, like, from a class point of view. – Yeah, that’s interesting. – I’m comin’ at it more from that. Oh, so it’s okay for these
minimalists to be out here with, you know, a color palette
of white to black, and it’s obvious that they’re choosing to live in a simpler mind set even though they don’t technically have to cause monetarily they could have more, they just don’t want to necessarily. Whereas, I think usually
most men in that lifestyle, maybe aren’t actually
making that much money, or are in, like you
were, kind of in transit, trying to get their life going, and get to a certain level, and just this is what they
can do for the time being. I also feel like, I mean
when I was in college, it ran the gamut, I would
be in someguys’s dorm rooms where it was obvious, I
mean it was masculine, but they had decorated, and you can see they took pride in the possessions they
did have, you know. And then I also was in
women’s dorms where, it was the same kinda thing. I mean, the couch was
purple but it was still not that great, you know
what I’m sayin’, like. So, there’s interesting
lines here as far as what is, I guess, almost
socially expected. – Right, or acceptable. – Or acceptable, across the
gender lines, a little bit. – Right, so like, I wouldn’t
necessarily expect a woman to have an apartment
that looks like it came outta Sex and the City,
I’m just try’na think, or like it’s a TV set. Where it’s got, like, the
couch positioned a certain way, and it’s got, like, some
decorations and stuff. I mean, I wouldn’t necessarily
assume that if I walk in, and a place is mostly
empty, then it’s like, oh, you either don’t have
money for a lot of things, you’re not really living here that much, or some combination of the two. And there’s nothing wrong with that. – Yeah. Yeah. I mean, cause, the other thing too. I mean I will say in all the places that I lived before living with you, there was an air of design but it was mostly focused around color. I wouldn’t say that anything was, like, amazingly put together. It wasn’t Instagram-esque,
it was just this is a bed and I like these sheets
because they’re in. I have had the same color
palette y’all since always. So it was a combination of
baby blue, red, white, green, yellow, like primary with some
accent color, like always. I think my style was also
always a little bit playful, a little bit, like, childlike, you know. Which, I mean, maybe that’s me trying to stay in adolescence
as much as possible. – No. – That might be, you
know, that might be me. Why y’all gotta knock dudes for trying. I guess that’s the other thing
too, what’s the intention. If this dude is try’na
get where he’s going. Don’t knock him. – Well, I mean, is this
just like a gender argument where it’s, like, oh you
know there’s a difference between men and women. Men live like animals in a bachelor life, and, women, you know, we’re a
little bit more sophisticated or they do whatever. And they just do things
a little bit better, they’re just a little
bit more put together, they just feel like there’s
more responsibility. I guess I’m just wondering
what the primary criticism is. – I think some of it is there’s more, I think socially there
is more responsibility on women to be decorative, and I think that ties into
the whole homemaker thing. I think, yes. Cause even when we first bought the house, when I was taking to, like,
the elders of my family around buying the house and all of that. My godmother was already asking me, so color palette what are
you fittin’ to do, you know. All of that kind of stuff
was going into it, but, true to her, that’s true to who she is, you know, liking that kind of stuff and wanting to talk to me
about that kind of stuff. I think that’s the big critique for me, that’s like the big critique
of those kind of environments. When you walk in it’s just like, I don’t know who you are by seeing this. – Right. – Which, that was what kinda
freaked me out about you. It wasn’t that there wasn’t much there, that it was barren or whatever, it’s just I had no sense of who you were or the space didn’t reflect what I was beginning to learn about you. – So, I guess we shoulda
started with this. This all kinda started with a Vox article that was kinda written about
this social media trend about calling out guys’ living situations. I think I did touch on
it, in that it feels like men are trapped in this
immature living situation. Cause a lotta them were talking about, oh, you know, this dude had
Game of Thrones figures and like – Oh yeah, I saw that. – Recreated the kingdom and, like, I guess this one character Jon Snow, like, he put him over by the air conditioner cause I guess he’s in
some sort of like wintery, I don’t know, I don’t
know Game of Thrones. – You see I would think that’s like, I know who you are though. – Yeah, but other people had, or like another dude
had, like, Pokemon stuff. – Okay. – But so it’s like, you
have figurines, right, and then you have, like, video games. It is just recalling
back childhood, right. And so this dude is just
kinda living in this. it’s like these women are
being critical of these men where it’s like, am I
desiring, this man-child. And then someone else had
a post where it’s like you know, we have these
women that, you know, you’re supposed to be
respected, you keep a tidy home. Or, you know, you respect
yourself in your space, and it looks that way as well, right. You look a certain type of way, you have a certain type of job, and yet you are in love
with this man-child who lives with only
three pieces of furniture and has, like, toy figurines of whatever, and then may or may not be doing anything with his life professionally. And so it’s kind of more
of a critique of, you know, what are women looking for and
then what are they finding. You know. – Yeah. – And I guess if I had to put my mindset in that living situation,
it was still very much like, well I’m still try’na get into college and try’na to get, like, into med school. But then it was still very much like, I need to get out of this. Had a good relationship, and then just kinda, like, made it work. And so I do kinda feel
like you can get trapped in that bachelor mindset and
that bachelor apartment. – Yeah. – But it should really only be temporary. – Well so my question then is
are men just vying their time. Cause like, oh, like the
social structure thing again. Like, oh, well you know, women are kind of already expected to keep a certain level
of dwelling, right. So I just need to buy my time till I find, if, obviously we’re always comin’ at this from the heterosexual sense, but until I find a woman, and then I’ll be livin’ in
a space that’s designed, you know, but I don’t
wanna put forth the energy to do that when I don’t feel
socially I actually need to, I don’t actually need to do that. – You’re just–
– Like subconsciously. – Just dragging men. – No, I mean, not even. It’s not their fault that
socially they can already see, like, oh I don’t need to
decorate cause, you know, the under thought is, oh well, you know, when I get a wife, she’ll do it, and I don’t have to think about it, and that’s fine cause I don’t want to, cause that frees up my head space to do, to grind and do other things and get to where I wanna
get, you know what I mean? – That’s a little too
much gender expectation. I would almost wanna say that, it’s like, I don’t see it beneficial. It’s not worth my time to decorate and do all this other stuff until it’s like there’s a reason to do it. So it’s like, oh okay, I have
somebody who’s bringing, like, other friends or we’re
entertaining a little bit more so now it’s worth my time,
whereas before it’s like maybe there’s somebody
there, maybe there’s not. – But that’s like a vicious cycle thing because if it’s never
worth your time, like, is someone ever gonna come over. Cause I remember when I
first came to your apartment, and saw the space, I
was like, eww, you know. And it was because we had
had a few encounters before that I already knew
some of your character, I was just like, I can
overlook this, right. It’s not expected. Why is it not expected of y’all? I think it is definitely
expected more of women, for sure. – I honestly, (Hallease
laughs) I honestly don’t, like, I honestly don’t know, like, I cannot wrap my mind around it. I don’t think that there’s
anything wrong with it. If y’all do, like, that’s
fine, but it’s like, I mean. – I mean, I don’t think
there’s anything wrong with it, but that’s only because I’ve had the experiences I’ve had now. And learning not to judge people based on where they’re living because so many things, case in point, so many things can
change in someone’s life. You don’t know where they are in transit, trying to become, or
what they’re try’na do. – I also think it’s a
question of affluence because–
– Yeah. – It’s like, I didn’t have the money– – True. – To spend on that type of stuff. Whereas, if you’re making, like, 100, 80 thousand dollars
a year or something, then it’s like, okay– – And you’re still livin’ like that, then it’s like, I mean, I’d
judge you a little bit then. If you’re makin’ six figures and you’re still livin’
in a very, you know. It’s one thing to live simply, it’s another thing to live just like, but you can afford to invest specifically in the design of your space. You know what I mean. – I don’t know–
– I don’t know. – If we answered the
topic (Hallease laughs). I don’t know if we brought insight to it. I’m kinda more interested in the comments. What other people think.
– Me too. Me too, actually, yeah. – Since you have a
predominately female audience. – Yeah. Yeah, in the comments below y’all, let us know what you think
about this trend going on in the internets about home shaming, essentially (Hallease laughs). Men in their apartment dwellings or house dwellings and whatnot. Whatta y’all feel. Is it bad, do people need to invest. Understand where you’re at but, you know, Ross is a thing, you know. – Ross is a bad thing. – There’s stuff there though. You can make a space look okay. – Yeah, you’re not wrong. – With like 50 bucks at Ross, like, you can make it work,
you know what I’m sayin’. And so, is that just a
waste of head space, though. Let us know in the comments below. And if you’re listening on Anchor, shoot us a voicemail and let
us know what you think, so. – Yeah. – We’ll see you next week. – [Together] Bye. – I don’t know if we
accomplished anything there. – Ah, we just talked about it. Alright, wait, oh. – Oh. (Hallease laughs)

23 Comments

❤ProjectTreice

Jan 1, 2019, 2:01 pm Reply

I am a first time watcher because the recommendation of Belief in Fatherhood. I really enjoy it!

Sharifa Love

Jan 1, 2019, 2:25 pm Reply

I feel like I'm Mr. Hallease in this situation. I've recently started to wonder if people's moms train them to value decor. It is not in me. My walls are barren and I find myself forcing myself to "grow up" and actually think about decor. I will never forget two years ago I participated in a secret sister's program at church and the questionnaire had kitchen colors bathroom colors etc. I had/have none of that, and it kinda makes you feel inadequate or not feminine. I hate that expectation.

Ricki

Jan 1, 2019, 2:42 pm Reply

Men aren’t the only ones! ?? I have lived that way for the reasons Mr. Hallease said. I’m moving in a year, I’m trying to save up, I’m slightly broke, and I don’t have people over.

Ricki

Jan 1, 2019, 2:43 pm Reply

Minimalism is a privilege. Growing up poor, you don’t throw things away that you might need later.

Jay Ray

Jan 1, 2019, 3:53 pm Reply

I’ve seen where you have 2 people who are committed to their particular design styles and they are not complementary style and it just clashes. No one really wants to concede their particular style and it’s just mish mash and a hodgepodge of just stuff.

Marissa Moor

Jan 1, 2019, 4:28 pm Reply

In an apartment, paying bills, holding down a job and or studying, these guys are on a 'growing up' journey. I've seen parents online breaking Xboxs, PS4s and other electronics. The big worry is getting a generation of young men out of parental home, working and in the real world. One man's TV cabinet is another woman's night stand. I have a mid 1900's wardrobe in my dining room storing my children's arts and craft plus tableware.

Angela B

Jan 1, 2019, 4:49 pm Reply

You two are a great team?

Angela B

Jan 1, 2019, 5:06 pm Reply

I think we as ladies like to feel comfortable in any space thus making things look nice and some kind of decorative thought to space we occupy.

CIGAR RALPHY

Jan 1, 2019, 5:12 pm Reply

I love cigars not cigarettes big diffrence

Stress Free

Jan 1, 2019, 6:30 pm Reply

I need a #Thebeastcast episode on communication with your partner and how you guys work at it. As far as the bachelor pads. Lawwwd men are gross when women aren't around. They need us. They really need us. hahahaha

bdebramo

Jan 1, 2019, 6:33 pm Reply

I helped decorate my brother's apartment.. he had no sense at all. I love that not all people have that trait it brings some kind of balance.. so its not surprising. Good on you having your own place at all. Also this isn't the 1950's were woke to the keeping up with the Jones's lie. HGTV is trying its hardest but when you get down to it, nobody I know currently is prioritizing furnishing their temporary living space like a TV set (except youtubers) and the ones that are are going to goodwill and being really thrifty because cultivating that space is super important to them and they have that gift of hospitality.

Lillian

Jan 1, 2019, 7:16 pm Reply

Yall are about to move into your own apartment! I didnt miss that news, congratulations!

MommaLuvsManga

Jan 1, 2019, 11:10 pm Reply

Matt and I recently “argued” about his lack of input for our home decor. By “argue” I really mean I asked for his opinion, he said “I don’t care” and I said “THIS IS WHY I NEVER ASK FOR YOUR OPINION!” Then proceeded to get the thing I wanted and he BET NOT SAY NOTHING. ??

There is definitely more of “me” in the house, but I try to keep everyone in mind. I do let the kids have choices for their rooms. Overall, I do want us all to feel comfortable and safe in our home.

Also, congrats on your upcoming move! I must have missed that announcement. LOL!

MommaLuvsManga

Jan 1, 2019, 11:18 pm Reply

Also… I can’t make fun of men with figurines because I literally collect Barbies and manga. ????

Traci Ross

Jan 1, 2019, 1:04 am Reply

I think there's a difference in "designing" a space versus your "home." If a person associates "home" with family or the place they grew up, then where they live won't necessarily need to be anything more than a place to live. They won't look at the walls or colours as significant since it isn't a "home." Is it coincidental that the people less concerned with making a "home" are men? Definitely not. There is absolutely some pseudo gendered expectation that women "should" care about homely spaces…whether that's to prove her own feminity or attract a partner… IDK. I will say I've dated men who have commented on the "cozy" nature of my apartment, as a space they like to be in, meanwhile all they have a bed and IKEA lamp. LOL Basically a prison. Sidebar: I was happy to listen to both perspectives while I did laundry today. A "answer" isn't always needed!

Diego Almazan

Jan 1, 2019, 1:17 am Reply

I like to think it's about priorities. When I was in school, specifically college, I didn't have much of a home life. Everything for me at the time was about passing classes, and making enough money to eat and have a space to sleep. Over time that changed for me as I think it does for everyone. I ended up being the type that prioritizes usability and comfort, so I try to make my home inviting and convenient to live in.

Tiffany Wu

Jan 1, 2019, 1:30 am Reply

Designing my space has never been a big part of my life. I also really enjoy being on the floor. For awhile in college I didn't have any furniture because I was happy enough just sitting and sleeping on the floor. I remember the first time I had friends over though.. I could see the judgement in their eyes ?. Eventually my dad was like, you can't live like this and bought me a futon, an air mattress, a folding table, and some chairs. Once Diego was in my life though, we basically kept all of his furniture. We've slowly been upgrading as we move and things break. Most of our decorations are things that we've made or my feeble attempt at decorating after sifting through Pinterest and YouTube. Pre-smart phone Tiffany would not have thought twice about making my friends picnic in my living room (but that was also pre-24ish Tiffany). I mainly only judge if people's spaces are dirty, smelly, or too fancy now. Otherwise, live and let live.

Victory Begins in the Garden

Jan 1, 2019, 5:02 am Reply

Jouelzy recommend your channel funny video

Latasha Thomas

Jan 1, 2019, 2:58 am Reply

I don't care about a man's decorating skills because I would override his opinion when we move in. ??‍♀️

PoseidonXIII

Jan 1, 2019, 11:16 pm Reply

Back at it again with the bird analogies! XD

PoseidonXIII

Jan 1, 2019, 12:06 am Reply

Like what Mr. Hallease mentioned, I think this points to the larger criticism of straight men that they do not value appearances and design as much as they should, yet they expect women to still want a relationship with them and are even really critical or hostile of women when they don't. In relationships, you have to give if you want to receive, and often it feels like straight dudes don't get that.

May : Always love to Live Another Day

Feb 2, 2019, 2:47 pm Reply

My only problem is with Bachelor men is that's they mix the the dirty clothes with clean clothes it drives me nuts to see men put dirty clothes on the floor and dump it on clean clothes. toilet seat up constantly. I don't mind using a nightstand as a TV stand this is economically useful majority of the times you just put junk in a knight's fan are you always bump into it getting off the bed.

Jackie Brown

Mar 3, 2019, 10:30 am Reply

How about a session on the type of things you all argue about. Solutions.

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